That hashtag resonated with me more than any other and it’s why partnering with Movember Canada this month may be the most important thing I have done in a long while. Seeing first-hand this last spring the dangers and scariness of cancer, it was an opportunity I jumped at. Someone very close to me got the shocking news all of us men fear, prostate cancer. While I can’t imagine what it exactly feels to be the host of the body under the microscope, I can attest to what it’s like to be a family member sitting helplessly nearby. It’s so sudden. The comforting part is just how quick and almost inevitable step two is…OK so what’s the plan? Let’s beat this shit.
I am proud and thankful that I write these thoughts in November with that special man still in my life. We are actually planning a mini getaway in the coming weeks and I owe it to family strength, an amazing medical system here in Canada and most of all, early detection. You know, as we get older in life it’s pretty remarkable how life slowly becomes more about others. At least you realize it more. Some of us bear children and get married but the necessity to stay alive becomes less about you wanting to and more about others needing you to. To support them and see them through some of the life experiences you were lucky to have made it through already. While I am yet to marry and become a father, I intend to stay alive, prosper, live for my loved ones and one day take care of my parents as they sail off into the sunset.
I used this month and my connection with Movember to host a dinner with some of my closest buds. I wanted to bring us together to simply celebrate life, health and to communicate. It was a cool feeling to see bringing my friends together created a really interesting collection of young men. With so many paths travelled in my life I’ve met some interesting men and kept many of them as close friends. Sitting at our table were guys from different ethnicities, sexualities, upbringings, professional careers and even different styles if you can believe it! One common goal and one common vow among us was to stay healthy and continue to grow together. It’s something to cheers to and something to nurture because it takes work. Be proactive with your checkups, support those who are battling and always do what you can raise awareness and funds for the cause. That promise will help a lot of us men see tomorrow.
So a little about the night. My guests were style bloggers Alexander Liang and Dustin Carrington, my best bud and realtor Brent Mangano, Equinox Yorkville GM and old colleague of mine Mike Easton and one of my favourite photographers to work with Adel Keshavarz. I wanted to make the night was fun so I put together a little goodie bag for the boys complete with a killer bag and books from Indigo, bad-ass boots from my good friends at Call It Spring and one of my favourite fragrances from Calvin Klein, Eternity Now. I chose Carbon Bar on Queen Street East as our destination and it was my second most important decision this year because it was PERFECT. Ugh, ask Dustin and I just how damn good the brisket was. You could literally taste the smoke in every bite. We had ribs, brisket, fried chicken, wine, cold beer and eventually salted caramel ice cream. Dinner is always a success with good friends but it is simply unbeatable when you cannot manage one single bite more.
Now I have a favour to ask of whomever is reading. I need your help. Not as a blogger but as a man. Donate to my fundraising page. Anything you can manage. Pay it forward and help me help the cause. If I could extend our booth to sit thousands of the amazing men in my Instagram community, I would. While I shall work my butt off to make that possible one day, today I ask for your donation. Thank you for listening guys, have an amazing and healthy month.