Time flies as you get older but there are still a few days to circle on the calendar that remind us of where we come from and that we should really slow it down. The fact is, not all of us are lucky enough to still have our father in our lives but if you do, embrace it. We all know we should take a moment everyday to be grateful for the special people in our lives or the privileges we’ve either inherited or worked for but life happens fast and we often let large blocks of time go by without really noticing. With that said, let’s at least dedicate this special Sunday coming up to honour and celebrate not just our own fathers, but all.
I suppose I never go into the vault of my life experiences much but the truth is, my upbringing was a little unconventional. At age 2 my parents divorced and while it didn’t emotionally scar me, it certainly split my life into two very different roads. Running parallel, but very different. My mother in one city and my father in another. Two completely different people with two completely different parenting methods. So much that I’m not sure how there was enough time to make me! Young love has it’s power though. As my teenage years approached, my rebellion took over and before I knew it I was moved out and living alone at 16, a high school dropout, and in essence, a lost boy. I was relatively popular, confident and outrageously independent but hanging on by a thread inside. I had a million and one creative ideas in my head, a heart full of dreams yet I was still monotonously scaling a ladder every morning to install a roof that I didn’t give a shit about and nothing to really come home to. I remember not just seeing but feeling the worry in my father’s eyes. My Dad is truly the hardest working man I have ever met, 1 of 6 boys, the rock of the family yet he was scared to death that he was watching a lost son of his own wander even further into the woods of bewilderment. Yet I could always feel his support. Like a quiet shadow following me through the woods, 10 yards back just keeping an eye out in case I misstepped.
…My Dad is truly the hardest working man I have ever met, 1 of 6 boys, the rock of the family yet he was scared to death that he was watching a lost son of his own wander even further into the woods of bewilderment.
I gave up roofing for window work, windows for fitness, fitness for corporate and eventually corporate for…well, this. It took me about six months to explain to my Dad what I actually now did for a living. I mean, my father is technically savvy but social media isn’t something he surfs on his downtime. Today, I can’t think of a bigger fan I have than my old man. Whether he’s calling me dying to know what I’m working on, showing off my pics to his buds at the pub or texting me to ask if I have some extra NFL shirts for those pub buds. He’s always dialled in and now all I feel from him is pride. A silent assurance that his youngest boy is going to be okay. And not because I have 50,000 followers or a fast car in the driveway but because I’m no longer lost. I navigated through the woods and found a little bit of myself. I no longer fear the future, I’m creating one.
People ask me all the time why I’m not married and if I want to be a father. Now my aforementioned outrageous independence certainly makes me a difficult man to date, but I absolutely want to be a father. The truth is, I’m not kid crazy like I am dog crazy. I’m not the world’s greatest uncle and I’m not dying to poke your new baby’s nose as I’m melting inside. But I want to do everything I possibly can to support and guide a young life. I constantly feel the desire to teach and lead by example. I want to be a father because I learned from one of the best and in a strange way I feel it is my duty to pass it along.
No matter what the vault shows in the history of your father, it’s nice to treat our Dads on the third Sunday in June. We’ve all wrapped up at least a dozen new ties over the years, slippers, bath robes, and all the father’s essentials but even though it always feels like Dad has everything he needs, there’s always something that can brighten his day. I decided to give up the uber creative ideas and simply gift my old man my absolute favourite essentials in MY life. Now that I’ve gotten a little older myself, it feels like I’m closer to my father than ever before. We drink the same beer, enjoy the same music and have really become more than father and son but actually, friends. Here are my must-haves that I’m passing onto Dad this year.
1|Philips Series 5000 MultiGroomer | VIEW
Just about every Dad needs some grooming power and this is the only one you need. Not only do I get my haircut a couple times per week, I trim and clean up my beard each and every day. When it’s done daily and with the right tool, the maintenance is a breeze. With multiple clips and settings, the 5000 allows me to trim the length of my beard, shape it around the edges, and even fade the length but my cheeks to my sideburns to create the perfect look. Also great for head hair too so a great clean up tool around the edges to keep your cut looking fresh until your next date with the barber. Truth be told, I keep one in on the bathroom sink and one in my travel dopp kit I carry around everyday. You never know when you need a tune up!
…the 5000 allows me to trim the length of my beard, shape it around the edges, and even fade the length but my cheeks to my sideburns to create the perfect look.
2| The Lumineers Cleopatra Deluxe album
Ok I get this is a very biased gift idea but I did say these gifts were all reflective of MY essentials. One of my favourite bands and one of my favourite albums top to bottom. It’s a staple in my car, on repeat at the office and a great record to have a few brews too. If Dad’s not a Chainsmokers fan and likes a twangy sound like the good old days, pass along the gift of music this June.
3| SWIMS loafers | VIEW
Okay so at first glance, I thought these are definitely different than what I normally wear but I always strive to be chameleonic with my style so I gave them a shot. I was pretty much slapped silly the moment I unboxed them. The materials are mind-blowing.. They have a boost-like popcorn sole, super lightweight mesh body and are pretty close to the most comfortable pair of shoes I’ve owned. No joke, no paid advertisement here, bro. Versatility is huge in menswear and these are absolutely perfect for just poking around the house, a walk to the coffee shop, cottage weekends, afternoons on a patio and even with a pair of slim chinos for dinner with friends. The moment my Dad saw them he wanted them so he’s getting a pair this year to keep him happy (and quiet) until next Father’s Day.